I have enjoyed your article and how deeply you've rooted out the family part. I think my main takeway from this is from the point you made about people not truly wanting things to change unless it affects them directly. I have also made the observation that even though there is always going to be public outrage when things go wrong, if you sit down with some of the "online warriors" to discuss solutions or strategies there isn't much they can offer to actually change and act. There's that lack of a clear collective path to be followed and more of adding to the noise so as to be seen contributing.Overall thank you for pointing this out...again loved the article๐ฏ
Thankyou so much Izaaq. Thereโs a reason they say empty debes make the most noise. As Kenyans we complain a lot knowing we arenโt going to do anything major about our situation and itโs a call for us to introspect!
If only fate had blessed me with a cow, I would have marched it straight to your door ribbon around its neck, hooves clattering on the pavement, and presented it to you with the solemnity of a Nobel Prize ceremony.๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ
The people who are talking are only talking and yelling and itโs honestly the equivalent of letting an oppressive system thrive without hindrance. For how long have Kenyans been insulting politicians and getting angry online? For two years now since maandamano. Things are only getting worse. They know that most people do not want to disrupt the illusion of โpeaceโ that we have as a country and wonโt do anything to challenge the system
Really enjoyed reading your article! I tend to agree with your main point. Family is such a strong system โ the first "supposed safe space" we encounter when we enter this world โ and to question it is often to put yourself in a very uncomfortable situation. Most of us accept the status quo... However, I had the same question as Nicole at the end of your article: only talking and yelling are definitely not enough, for sure. But the confrontation with the family feels like such a strong and radical move to bring about at a mass level, that I wonder if there aren't softer ways to raise awareness โ like you did with this article โ for people to take small steps at a family level. Also, what I wonder about is this: some people have taken the big step of "destroying" the family structure, and we haven't yet seen the restructuring of a new "safe" concept emerge to replace it... which can be scary, I guess.
Hey Mariam ๐๐พ thankyou for reading. I think existing in a society where questioning the status quo gets met with rejection and ostracization definitely scares many people. I personally have seen how people can viciously treat you (at the family level) Weh you call out the structures. I think safe structures exist, this is what people call chosen family. The reason we donโt see them as visible is because people frown upon them. In my observation also, once you manage to set yourself free from some of these oppressive structures, you are so worn out and you genuinely just fall off the face of the earth and resort to living a peaceful life. Thereโs not many examples to borrow from which sometimes is an indicator that we have to be the blueprints. Which is why it scares many people
I have enjoyed your article and how deeply you've rooted out the family part. I think my main takeway from this is from the point you made about people not truly wanting things to change unless it affects them directly. I have also made the observation that even though there is always going to be public outrage when things go wrong, if you sit down with some of the "online warriors" to discuss solutions or strategies there isn't much they can offer to actually change and act. There's that lack of a clear collective path to be followed and more of adding to the noise so as to be seen contributing.Overall thank you for pointing this out...again loved the article๐ฏ
Thankyou so much Izaaq. Thereโs a reason they say empty debes make the most noise. As Kenyans we complain a lot knowing we arenโt going to do anything major about our situation and itโs a call for us to introspect!
If only fate had blessed me with a cow, I would have marched it straight to your door ribbon around its neck, hooves clattering on the pavement, and presented it to you with the solemnity of a Nobel Prize ceremony.๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ
Ahhh! Brand neew string of words I encounter everyday. Thankyou so much, I am honored!๐ค๐ค๐๐ฟ
This is so true. But isnโt keeping quiet letting the oppressive system thrive without hindrance?
The people who are talking are only talking and yelling and itโs honestly the equivalent of letting an oppressive system thrive without hindrance. For how long have Kenyans been insulting politicians and getting angry online? For two years now since maandamano. Things are only getting worse. They know that most people do not want to disrupt the illusion of โpeaceโ that we have as a country and wonโt do anything to challenge the system
Really enjoyed reading your article! I tend to agree with your main point. Family is such a strong system โ the first "supposed safe space" we encounter when we enter this world โ and to question it is often to put yourself in a very uncomfortable situation. Most of us accept the status quo... However, I had the same question as Nicole at the end of your article: only talking and yelling are definitely not enough, for sure. But the confrontation with the family feels like such a strong and radical move to bring about at a mass level, that I wonder if there aren't softer ways to raise awareness โ like you did with this article โ for people to take small steps at a family level. Also, what I wonder about is this: some people have taken the big step of "destroying" the family structure, and we haven't yet seen the restructuring of a new "safe" concept emerge to replace it... which can be scary, I guess.
Hey Mariam ๐๐พ thankyou for reading. I think existing in a society where questioning the status quo gets met with rejection and ostracization definitely scares many people. I personally have seen how people can viciously treat you (at the family level) Weh you call out the structures. I think safe structures exist, this is what people call chosen family. The reason we donโt see them as visible is because people frown upon them. In my observation also, once you manage to set yourself free from some of these oppressive structures, you are so worn out and you genuinely just fall off the face of the earth and resort to living a peaceful life. Thereโs not many examples to borrow from which sometimes is an indicator that we have to be the blueprints. Which is why it scares many people
This is disturbingly true, relatable and a good understanding of how it flows back to national politics, thank you for this article!
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